20 Reasons to Stop Watching Porn Today

Sandra Richardson

Jan 22, 2021

New Year, new you. With 2021 nearly upon on, it’s time to start making positive changes for yourself. Most people kick off the New Year with a diet or career change. Porn addicts, on the other hand, might be contemplating ways to ditch their habit and stop watching porn. Did you know that nearly 10% of the adult population is plagued by porn addiction? Those addicted to cyberporn spend upwards of 12 hours a week viewing pornography on the Internet.

Some might argue that watching pornographic videos is a healthy form of sexual expression. While this may be true for some people, porn addicts have an unhealthy obsession with viewing these sexually explicit videos. Like with any addiction, there’s a way to quit. With the right resources, willpower, and a positive outlook, you can find treatment for porn addiction. Even if you don’t have an addiction but enjoy watching porn occasionally, there are some things you should know. Before long, this erotic pastime can quickly turn into an addiction that runs and ruins your life. Don’t believe us? Keep reading to uncover 20 valid reasons to stop watching porn now and break free from (or prevent) porn addiction.

1. It Can Become an Addiction

Too much of a good thing can be bad. What starts out innocent can quickly spiral out of control. This is due, in part, to the chemical reaction that occurs when viewing pornography. Your brain releases feel-good chemicals known as endorphins, with dopamine and oxytocin being the most prominent. This release carves out pathways in your brain that trigger you to associate viewing pornography with feelings of pleasure and euphoria. Although this can be harmless, it can also create compulsive, obsessive behaviors, making it nearly impossible to quit.

2. Achieve a More Realistic View of Sex and Sexual Pleasure

To put it bluntly, life isn’t a porn movie. The girl doesn’t always have an earth-shattering orgasm and no, all guys don’t have a member THAT big. Pornography creates a distorted, unrealistic idea of what sex is and should be. When you actually engage in sex or intimacy in real-life, chances are, you’ll be disappointed. You can’t enjoy sex for what it is because you have an unattainable picture in your mind. You’re essentially robbing yourself of intimate moments and satisfying sex in real-life. When you stop watching porn, you gain a healthier mindset about sex and your own sexuality.

3. The Addiction Can Escalate

Similar to a drug, after watching the same type of porn for the same amount of time, your body and brain build up a tolerance. The same videos no longer elicit the same feelings of pleasure. You might find yourself needing to watch more and more pornography to achieve that same level of satisfaction you once did. Both the dosage and content will evolve and intensify. In some cases, you may even need to indulge in more hardcore viewing and other behaviors. This can be dangerous and cause irreparable damage to your personal relationships.

4. Establish Deeper Personal Connections

Speaking of relationships, these are some of the first things to suffer when you face porn addiction or compulsive viewing. Many people become more withdrawn and detached from those they care about most. You may be unable to form deep, meaningful connections in real life because you become subconsciously invested in the characters in the videos you watch. Ditching porn means gaining the ability to form healthy, fulfilling relationships with those around you. This includes friends, family, and intimate partners.

5. Love Yourself and Your Body

Your relationship with others isn’t the only one that suffers when your pornography viewing gets out of control. You also become disconnected from yourself. You may even start viewing yourself and your body in a negative light. It’s only natural to compare yourself to others. Unfortunately, plenty of make-up, editing, and cosmetic surgery go into creating seemingly perfect figures on your screen. You may start to subconsciously compare yourself to these people, similar to the way you compare your sex life to the unrealistic acts you see. This can lead to low self-esteem and even a distorted body image. Everyone is beautiful in their own way and ditching pornography will help you appreciate all of your amazing qualities!

6. Improved Thoughts and Behavior

Remember how we mentioned needing to watch more graphic and intense pornography to achieve the same results? This usually means getting excited and aroused by videos that you won’t find offensive or off putting. In extreme cases of porn addiction, viewers begin to engage in and expect others to indulge in their dark and sometimes disturbing behavior. This can put a major strain on your relationship if your partner isn’t comfortable with what you’re asking. You might find yourself getting frustrated when they won’t comply. Lack of boundaries is another common occurrence when your porn addiction has gotten out of control.

7. Become Less Judgmental

Because pornography creates an unrealistic picture in your mind about how your partner should act or look, you might find yourself judging them unfairly. Instead of seeing people as beautiful and unique, you begin to compare them to your preconceived idea of the “perfect partner”. These comparisons are usually rooted in physical appearance, but you may also judge their unwillingness to try new things. Some porn addicts view their lovers as a prude, inexperienced, or not lively enough in bed. When you let go of porn and all the unrealistic expectations associated with it, you can finally start to appreciate those around you for the beautiful people they are.

8. Prevent Physical, Sexual Complications

Pornography leads to having less satisfying sex — that is when you actually have it. Most people who are watching pornography are also masturbating. If you’re masturbating regularly, your sex drive will undoubtedly decrease. Or should we say, plummet? This can actually cause erectile dysfunction in men. The inability to perform or even get aroused by in-person interactions is a common occurrence following regular porn consumption. This condition is appropriately called porn-induced ED. When you stop watching porn, your brain can rewire itself and once again find sexual satisfaction and arousal from normal activities.

9. Avoid Violent Outbursts and Behaviors

For reasons unbeknownst to us, many pornography videos portray the partners (usually women) being mistreated both physically and verbally. Whether or not you realize it, watching these types of activities repeatedly makes you desensitized to them. Things that you would normally find appalling are now, somehow, acceptable. Even if the porn videos you choose don’t depict violence (slapping, tying up, choking), there’s still a clear power differential between the men and women in these scenes. The worst part is, the “victim” generally acts with pleasure or doesn’t act at all. They don’t kick, fight, or look displeased. This signals your brain that not only is this behavior acceptable but that it’s actually enjoyable for the other person when, in reality, this is most likely false. Don’t be confused into thinking violence is sexy. It’s not — and behaving this way could get you in serious trouble. It may also cause you to unintentionally hurt someone you love.

10. Live a More Honest Life

Most porn addicts don’t advertise their addiction. Even those people who watch porn regularly but don’t consider themselves addicts are, on some level, ashamed of their behavior. Do you hide your porn habit from your spouse or partner? Do you find yourself breaking plans or lying so that you can watch porn? Now you’re left feeling guilty about not only watching pornography but keeping it a secret. Telling one small lie eventually snowballs into more lies and before long, you start believing them. Ditch the porn and start living an honest life where you’re true to yourself.

11. Increase Creativity and Productivity

It might sound silly but watching pornography takes up a lot of time — especially for those who are addicted. Depending on your viewing habits, you may spend anywhere from 30 minutes to several hours a day watching porn. That leaves little time for anything else! Add in work, family time, and other obligations and you’ve wasted all of your free time. When you stop watching pornography, you can start really living life. Join a sports team or gym. Get outside and experience nature by hiking, camping, or bike riding. Start enjoying tangible things that benefit your mind and body. When porn doesn’t consume your mind you can also focus on important things like work and family. You’ll be surprised by how much more productive and focused you are. Your creativity will soar thanks to a clear head and the ability to tap into your true self and imagination.

12. Take Control of Your Life

One in five people who regularly watch porn feel like it controls their life. The urges and overwhelming need to view porn usually outweighs the desire to do much less. You become at the mercy of your porn addiction. Not only will you regain control of your own time and behaviors, but you can also control your interactions with others.

13. Promote Healthy Mental and Emotional Health

Any type of addiction takes a toll on your mind and body — and porn addiction is no different. Watching pornography is a solo sport. It leads to hours of isolation — just you and your computer screen. Before long, you find it difficult to interact with people outside the house or hold a conversation. You might feel removed from the outside world and even border on depression. There’s also a lot of guilt and anxiety associated with porn addiction. Anxiety over being caught and guilt about keeping the secret. Some people even feel as if they’re cheating on their partner when they watch and get aroused by the individuals in the videos. Improve your mental and emotional health by stepping away from the screen and stepping into real life!

14. Increased Energy

For porn addicts that masturbate and experience a release when watching porn, the thought of actually having sex with their partner is exhausting. Chances are, you have zero sexual energy or interest in sex. But what about your energy levels in general? Do you find that you’re more tired than usual? That’s because porn drains your mental and physical energy. Not to mention, juggling your porn addiction and everyday life is also tiresome. By eliminating porn from your life, you’ll discover increased energy in all aspects.

15. Save Money

While there’s plenty of free porn available on the Internet these days, this will only satisfy you for the short-term. Before long, you’ll be paying for access to exclusive content or subscribing to specific channels. Some addicts even pay to experience live-cam videos with their favorite porn stars. The porn industry rakes in a whopping $97 billion annually around the world. But shelling out cash isn’t the only way you’re wasting money (and your potential). Those hours spent in front of the screen could’ve been used to put in extra hours at work or complete a project. Lack of focus at work is a common side effect of porn addiction. Perhaps you lost a promotion or an opportunity for advancement due to lack of performance. Porn is robbing you of more than just your emotional connections to others — it’s robbing your wallet, too!

16. Find Joy in Other Things

When porn is your main source for entertainment, joy, and pleasure, there’s little room for much else. Things you used to love doing no longer have the same positive impact on your life. Things like playing sports, going out with friends, reading, or making music no longer measure up to the pleasure you get from porn. This is mainly because they lack the shock value that porn offers. Get back to the “old you” that used to enjoy doing things like fishing, singing, or meeting with a book club. Leaving porn behind lets you experience and enjoy the simpler things in life.

17. Prevent STD’s and Promiscuity

Porn addiction often leads to risky behaviors. If your partner isn’t willing to indulge in your dark fantasies, you need to find someone who will. Not only does this lead to infidelity but also sex with multiple partners who are sometimes strangers or prostitutes, which is dangerous and illegal! Studies show that porn addicts are more likely to engage in promiscuous, unprotected sex with partners they don’t know. This goes hand-in-hand with viewing increasingly disturbing and violent videos. Underage viewers are also more likely to engage in sex sooner than those who don’t watch pornography. Protect yourself and your partner by always practicing safe sex.

18. Respect Others and Yourself

One side-effect of regularly consuming pornography is a lack of respect for both yourself and others. Most porn addicts feel ashamed of their habit and how it makes them feel and act. If you’re not performing at work, in the bedroom, or as a functioning party of society, you might feel useless and hopeless. Are you finding it hard to respect the person you’ve become? This is a sure sign that your porn habit is out of control. Not respecting yourself also promotes those dangerous behaviors we mentioned before like having unprotected sex with multiple partners or acting violently. After all, if you don’t respect yourself you may not care what happens to you. But regardless, you should care about what happens to others. A lack of respect for the people in your life is another unfortunate side-effect of porn addiction. Your behavior also makes those closest to you feel rejected, confused, and betrayed. No one wants to feel this way and chances are, you don’t want to make your loved ones feel this way either. Start respecting yourself and others by eliminating porn from your life.

19. Don’t Support Objectification

Most porn videos and movies lack any real plot. There’s no storyline, characters, or feelings involved. The end result is always the same — two people (or more) being physical with one another. They’re seen as nothing more than objects. A means to an end. Sadly, objectifying people (usually women) in porn videos leads to their objectification in life as well. Pornography perpetuates the objectification of women and aggressive behavior toward them. Even if you don’t support those acts, you’re still supporting the porn industry — and these two things are closely connected.

20. Become Your Own Sex Expert

We’ve already said multiple times that pornography creates an unrealistic idea of what sex is and should be. Yes, most of those on-screen orgasms are FAKE! Are you trying to perform similar sex acts in the bedroom but aren’t getting the same result? That’s because the scenes you’re watching aren’t real. Not only are you trying to achieve the impossible at times, but porn is robbing you of your sexual creativity and exploration. Your mind is limited by what you see in videos. You lack the desire or creativity to experiment in a safe, healthy way with your partner. Don’t let porn videos cripple your sexual creativity. Become your own expert by exploring all the fun and pleasure that real sex has to offer. Learn with your partner in a non-judgmental and safe space. Believe it or not, enjoying an orgasm paired with a deep emotional connection will be the most intense and memorable of your life!

There you have it! We’ve shared 20 reasons to stop watching porn and how each one can improve your life. From increased self-confidence and honesty to more self-worth and focus, letting go of one unhealthy habit can help you welcome so many healthier, more beneficial activities into your life.