Porn Addiction Forums: Are They Blessings or Curses?

You’re desperate. You don’t know what to do. You feel like you’re never going to get grip on your porn addiction. Perhaps, you’ve been through porn addiction treatment once. Or, maybe, you’ve been down this road a few times. Regardless, nothing is helping. You keep doing the same thing hoping for a different result, but you keep getting more of the same. You tell yourself, “This time will be different…” But you always end up returning to your “bad habits.” You just can’t let porn go. You feel so alone.

Then, one night, as you scroll through internet sites looking for something to distract yourself from your urges to view porn, you come across porn addiction forums. You ponder if you should click on one of the sites. Is it worth it? Maybe, it will help you with your “porn problem.” Maybe, not. You are at your wits-end so you enter the forum and register to be a member. You now belong to a porn addiction forum. Is this the path to recovery OR is it the beginning of something worse? You won’t know if you don’t try.

What are Forums?

A forum is a medium (message board or online discussion site), where people can openly discuss a topic within a “subreddit community.” Forums not only allow you to post comments that are longer than a couple of lines, but they also archive them so members can return to them at a later date.

Are There Porn Addiction Support Forums?

Yes, there are porn addiction support forums for both porn addicts and their loved ones.

The purpose of porn addiction forums is to offer positive support to porn addicts and their loved ones. These forums not only discuss porn-related issues but also provide valuable tips on how to cure porn addiction. A porn addiction support forum is a “safe” online platform that allows you to ask questions and receive honest answers from people, who are experiencing something similar – all without judgment.

Listed below are porn addiction support forums for porn addicts and their loved ones:

  • Your Brain Rebalanced – This porn addiction support forum is broken down into “Questions and Answers” and “Porn Journals.” This forum is then further broken down into different age groups.

    Topics include: Day 1 – Check-in, The Neuroscience of Addiction: Our Dopamine Nation, Question About Relapse, Tactics List, Is PMO Healthy? How I Became A Porn Addict, PIED and Relationship Balance, Why is This Happening to Me? Thought Recognition Techniques, etc.).

  • Psych Forums – Psych Forums covers a variety of topics, including sexual addiction. Each forum has a specific topic attached to it. Like other forums, Psych Forum’s Sexual Addiction Forum is designed to answer questions and offer honest answers and effective tips and suggestions to people, who are wanting information on sexual addictions, like porn addiction.

    Topic includes: Guilt Over Porn, Maintaining Sexual Sobriety, Porn and Alcohol, I Keep Failing…, Horrible Sexual Addiction That is Ruining My Life, Porn Addiction – Losing Family, Job…, Porn Addict Wanting his Life Back, etc.

  • NoFap – NoFap is an extensive community-based porn addiction recovery website that offers a variety of sexual addiction/porn addiction articles, forums, and apps. NoFap also helps to recover porn addicts connect with each other. Thus, the ultimate goal of NoFap is to provide support, understanding, and knowledge within a safe and healing atmosphere. NoFap forums can also be found on Reddit.

    NoFap forums are categorized under the following headings:

    • Sexual Health – Porn Addiction, Problematic Sexual Behavior, Success Stories
    • General – Off-Topic Suggestions, Self-Improvement, Loneliness, Dating During a Reboot (Recovery), Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation
    • Communities – New to NoFap, Accountability Partners, Rebooting in a Relationship, International Discussion, Technical Support, and Feedback
    • Reboot Logs or Recovery Journals – Under 20, Ages 20-24, Ages 25-29, Ages 30-39, Ages 40+, Women in Reboot, Reset and Relapse Reports, Uncategorized Reboot Logs

    Topics include: Relapsing…, Why Porn is So Easy to Access? Is There a Hidden Agenda? I’m Stuck in a Relapse Cycle and I Really Need Help, Know Your Triggers, Does Anxiety Fuel Porn Addiction? First Day Without Porn, My First Step! BABY STEPS: Better to Quit PORN Before Quitting MASTURBATION? 90-Day Challenge, etc.

  • The Sedona Method – The Sedona Method encompasses a website, forums, live events, and products (books and movies, courses, and original recordings). The forum provides you with a platform to share your personal success stories, find answers to your questions, and offer suggestions to others.

    The forums involve a variety of categories, such as:

    • Sustainable Success
    • Seeking Releasing Partners
    • Letting Go Releases
    • Letting Go Articles
    • Letting Go Live Events
    • Letting Go Support and Calls
    • Great Videos

    The Sedona Methods also offers subforums, such as:

    • Messages from Hale
    • Introduction & Welcome
    • Sedona Method Advanced Techniques
    • Law of Attraction
    • General Community Tech Questions
    • Highest and Best Good
    • Letting Go Conversations
    • Letting Go Product and Course Guides
    • Letting Go Advanced Techniques
    • Letting Go Questions and Answers
    • Letting Go Reward for Sharing
    • Letting Go Personal Gains and Realizations

    Topics Include: Letting Go of Porn/Masturbation Addiction & Porn Addiction

    Note: The Sedona Method appears to have active forums, however, the porn addiction forum does not appear to be as active as some of the other forums. The last time someone posted in the porn addiction forum was in 2019. Some people posted on a different topic (masturbation and porn) in 2020 and 2021, however, the questions and responses have been sparse.

  • Blazing Grace – Blazing Grace is a Christian or religious comprehensive ministry and website that offers a wide range of tools, such as blogs, forums, articles, podcasts, books, counseling, groups, retreats, videos, newsletters, and products (books, journals, and t-shirts). Blazing Grace specializes in porn addiction recovery to help porn addicts break “free” of their addictions, while also providing support to their wives.

    Blazing Grace forums are categorized under six headings:

    • New Registrations
    • Accountability
    • The Journey to Grace – General Discussion, Homosexuality, Prayer Requests, Other Topics, Masturbation, Marriage and Family, Introduction Helpful Resources, Women Who Struggle with Sex Addiction
    • For Spouses – For Wives
    • Church & Theology – The Church
    • Announcements & Feedback – Comments, Suggestions, and Questions, Announcements

    Topics include: Why Do Some Women Dress Provocatively? All Porn Addiction is About Cowardice, Results of 2012 Porn Survey, Triggers, Masturbation Preferred Over Actual Sex? Cyber-Sex, Where in the Bible Does it Specifically Say Masturbation is a Sin? I Don’t Know How to Manage Without My Addiction (For Women), If You Struggle with Porn or Masturbation Addiction… (For Women), Porn and Masturbation Addict (For Women), Sabotage (For Women), Overcoming Sex Addiction (For Women), etc.

    Note: Unlike some other porn addiction forums, Blazing Grace appears to include female porn addicts, however, the tone in some of the forums (towards women) appears to be slightly condescending.

  • Reboot Nation – This forum is designed to help porn addicts recover from their porn addiction while offering support, guidance, and information to their loved ones. Thus, it is designed for the addict and his or her family members, partner, and friends. A porn addiction forum is a place where recovering addicts and their loved ones can ask questions, receive help, and get the support they need to fully heal from the addiction.

    Reboot Nation forum is broken down into three categories:

    • Reboot Nation Information Center – Reboot Nation News, Getting Started, Tracking Your Progress, Forum Suggestions & Questions
    • Reboot Nation Forum – Porn Addiction, Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction/Delayed Ejaculation, Partners of Rebooters and Addicts, Success Stories
    • Journals – Teens, Ages 20-29, Ages 30-39, Ages 40 and up, Women

    Topics include: Is Porn Addiction A Symptom or Cause of Issues? Just Deleted Giant Porn Collection, Growing Up with Porn, I Need Help with Porn, Reboot Symptoms, Is it a Relapse? I Watched Porn with my GF (Girlfriend)…, How to Solve the Problem of Watching Porn, Why Do Some People Not Become Addicted to Porn? Porn Addict in Recovery

    Note: This forum also appears to “welcome” females, who are recovering from porn addiction. And, unlike religious forums, women appear to be active members. This forum also “welcomes” people, who have developed porn-induced erectile function, relapsed addicts, and addicts, who have experienced success. At first glance, this forum seems to be more positive and inclusive, than some of the other porn addiction support forums.

  • Get a New Grip on Life (Reddit Forum) – Get a New Grip on Life forum (Reddit’s officially-hosted NoFap porn addiction forum) is porn addiction and compulsive sexual behavior recovery peer support forum. This forum offers “rebooting” challenges in which you, also referred to as “fapstronauts,” abstain from porn and masturbation for a certain time. In this forum, you’ll find a supportive community and plenty of resources to help you quit porn for good. The Get a New Grip on Life forum only has one category – Porn Addiction.

    Topics include: Number One Reason to Quit Pornography and Lusting Over Women, in General…, As a 30-yo Virgin, I am So Disappointed in Myself for Having this Addiction: Enough is Enough, If You Quit Porn Now, You’ll Be at Day 75 on Jan 1, 2022, How to Stop Sexualizing Girls and Thinking About Sex? (Question), How has Porn Consumption Impacted You? This is Your Daily Reminder to STOP Peeking (Advice)

    Note: Although this forum boasts a membership of 884,000 people with almost 2,000 users online at any given time, there does not appear to be a huge female presence. In other words, most of the posts come from male porn addicts. Also, if you don’t like profanity, this may not be the right forum for you because curse words are used a dime-a-dozen throughout the thread.

  • Porn Addiction Forum (Reddit) – The purpose of the Porn Addiction Forum is to discuss porn addiction – not porn use. This forum only has one category – Porn Addiction.

    Forum Disclaimer: This is a “subreddit” to discuss porn ADDICTION, not porn. Posting or linking to porn is strictly against the rules and will result in a ban. Please help us keep porn links off of the forum by clicking “report” under any rule-breaking post(s).

    Topics include: What’s the Best Method of Stopping Porn? I Relapsed, Caught, After a 3.5 Year Relationship I, (42F), Completely Ghosted My Boyfriend, (46M) – Need Advice, I Ruined My Relationship with Porn, Advice for PA (Porn Addicts), I Wanna Stop This Addiction NOW, What I Learned from Relapsing

    Note: Although I found a couple of posts by either female porn addicts or the girlfriends or spouses of porn addicts, this forum still appears to be dominated by male porn addicts. There was also a post from a teenage porn addict asking for help to stop his porn use. Moreover, there was profanity splattered throughout the thread, so take heed, if you don’t like curse words or sexually explicit terms.

What is Reddit? Is Reddit and “Subreddits” the Same Thing?

Reddit is a web content, social news website, while “subreddits” are small discussion communities or forums within Reddit (the website). So, although Reddit and “subreddits” are interconnected, they are not the same thing. Reddit is the whole, while “subreddits” are pieces of the whole.

Reddit consists of a large group of forums, in which registered users can talk about almost anything, including porn, porn addiction, sexual addiction, sexual dysfunctions (i.e., erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation).

How does it work? People, who want to discuss a certain topic, for instance, porn addiction, register on the Reddit site. Once registered, members can post content on a specific “subreddit” or forum (i.e., porn addiction) through links, posts, images, and videos. “Subreddits” are “sub-communities,” where you can communicate with others, who share your specific interest(s).

Subreddits” cover a variety of topics, such as news, values, finances, politics, religion, celebrities, science, movies, television shows, video games, music, books, sports, fitness, cooking, relationships, mental health, pets, sex, porn, and addiction. When you post content, it can be “upvoted” or “down-voted” by the other members. Content with the most “upvotes” are either pushed to the top of the page or displayed on the front page of the “subreddit.”

Warning: Reddit and individual “subreddits” have administrators and moderators to patrol the sites, along with strict guidelines and rules to prevent and/or stop harassment, bullying, or unnecessary profanity. However, it still happens. So, if you experience any behavior from other Reddit members that makes you uncomfortable – report to the administrators and/or moderators immediately.

Are Female Porn Addicts Also Welcomed in The Forums? What About Religious Porn Addicts?

Yes and no.

Some porn addiction forums include women porn addicts, while others have a “women’s” section within the forum. However, none of the forums I visited were “women-friendly.” More specifically, the topics, questions, answers, guidance, and suggestions were mostly generated by and focused on issues that male porn addicts face. It is important to note that I did not observe any derogatory comments, in regards to women, but I also did not witness many interactions between male and female porn users or addicts.

I also did not witness many interactions between loved ones of porn addicts and porn addicts, although I did occasionally see a post from a partner or relative of a porn user or addict looking for support. Or, more specifically, to answer questions that had been nagging them. I did notice that a couple of forum members had mildly regressive attitudes when it came to gender – how men should behave and how women should behave (and dress). Moreover, the majority of the active members appeared to be 99% male.

Naturally, the Christian-based porn addiction forums tended to tie masculinity to Christian beliefs (i.e., the original sin) with men (Adam) being beholden to and bamboozled by women (Eve). In these forums, the idea was that men became “hooked” on porn because of the enticement (the apple) of women. In other words, women got the men in “trouble” because they trusted and followed them. Without the seduction tactics of women (pornographic images), men wouldn’t fall prey to porn addiction.

Ironically, Christian-based porn addiction forums tend to view men as being “overtaken” by porn – in essence having a weaker self-will, while women are seen as having a stronger control over their actions – in essence, a stronger self-will. As a result, a male’s porn addiction stems from an inability to resist women’s naked bodies, while women deliberately use their bodies to “trick” males into engaging in unholy or evil practices.

Thus, a woman’s role, according to these forums, is to be chaste and not entice men with evil (porn). Christian-based forums also typically shun homosexuality as a “sin” and masturbation as the “work of the devil.” But, even in some non-religious forums, porn addictions are viewed as a “weakness” or a “lack of self-control,” and “relapses” are viewed as “failures.” It is important to note, however, that this does not speak to all porn addiction support forums.

There are also positive, uplifting, and truly non-judgmental and supportive porn addiction forums – ones who wholeheartedly “welcome” men and women, loved ones, teens, and adults of all ages. They also “welcome” porn addicts from various sexual orientations. Women, just like men, have to find the porn addiction forum that is right for them. That comes with “testing the waters.”

In other words, visiting the sites and reading the topics and comments, because is the only way you’ll know you’ve found the forum that will provide you with the tools you need to become “porn-free” and stay that way indefinitely.

I Have a “Porn Habit” Could Visiting the Forums Cause Me to Become Suicidal?

Possibly…

Unfortunately, and quite alarming, there have been reports of “suicidal ideation” in some porn addiction forums. While these forums provide a “safe space” for people to talk about their porn habits (under the guise of a “username”), they can also trigger or worsen feelings of self-harm, sometimes attached to porn addiction. These feelings of self-harm can, and sometimes do, lead to suicidal thoughts and attempts. Why does this happen? Well, some forums push the idea that porn addiction is a permanent plague that has no long-term solution.

These forums suggest that porn addiction relapse is a definite – not a possibility, which can cause some porn addicts, especially the recovering ones, to feel there is no hope. It’s the belief that once a person is an addict, he or she is destined to forever be an addict. It is this feeling of hopelessness and helplessness that fuels “suicidal ideation.”

And, with religious or Christian-based porn addiction forums, there’s the idea that if you are a Christian porn addict, you have some moral failing that can’t be remedied. This belief system can trigger or aggravate depression, anxiety, and “suicidal ideation.”

Is There Anything Else I Can Try Before Turning to Porn Addiction Forums?

Yes, you can try Stop Together!

Stop Together is an online porn recovery program that can help you banish your “porn habit” and reclaim your sexual health and livelihood – for good! And, guess what? You get to do it all from the comfort of your own home for an affordable price! That’s right! You don’t have to address your “porn use” alone. And, you don’t have to attend in-person counseling sessions to get the help you need either! Stop Together provides you with the tools (cognitive restructuring, cognitive-reframing, CBT, support, tips, etc.), you need to stay “porn-free,” if and when it tries to sneak up on you in the future. Stop Together is the program you’ve been looking for. With this program, porn will lose its hold on you forever!