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The Most Useful Books for Porn Addiction

Sandra Richardson

Jun 02, 2021

Are you struggling with porn addiction? Do you find yourself losing time, missing deadlines, or damaging relationships? Most addicts keep their habits a secret from friends and loved ones. This is especially true for porn addicts who are often embarrassed by their “substance” of choice.

 

We’re here to tell you there’s nothing to be embarrassed about. With over 40 million Americans admitting to visiting porn sites regularly and nearly 6 million identifying as addicts, you’re not alone. While there are plenty of recovery options available including individual and group therapy, some people prefer to tackle their addiction in private. This is completely understandable and it’s one reason the Stop Together program was developed and works so well.

An online program designed for porn addicts, Stop Together offers tools, resources, guides, and access to professionals and other recovering addicts. Not only can you complete the program in the privacy of your own home, but also at your own pace. The best part is, you can reference the provided materials throughout the course and well into the future. The information in the Stop Together program should be used to keep you on track and help you embrace a porn-free life from start to finish and beyond.

We encourage you to explore other resources and information to support and reinforce what you learn in the Stop Together program, which is why we’ve compiled this list of the most useful books for porn addicts.

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Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction

As with any addiction, understanding what actually goes on inside your brain and body is an important step in the recovery process. Both alcohol and illegal drugs cause a chemical reaction and dependency inside the brain. What most people don’t realize is that viewing pornography causes a similar reaction by tapping into your brain’s reward and pleasure systems. Understanding how your brain is hardwired and the chemical reactions that occur when viewing pornography can help you shed some feelings of guilt and self-deprivation.

Your Brain on Porn focuses on the science of addiction as well as how the introduction of Internet porn has changed the landscape of addiction. With pornographic material so readily available, more and more people are falling victim to this addiction. In his book, author Gary Wilson creates a unique balance between first-person accounts and scientific findings to inform readers about the dangers and the power of Internet pornography. Wilson also touches on some unexpected side-effects of viewing pornography including erectile dysfunction among younger men, and what these findings mean for pornography addiction.

Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain

Another book that talks about the negative impact of pornography on the brain is William Struther’s Wired for Intimacy. While this resource is geared towards male addicts, it doesn’t mean that women struggling with addiction won’t find useful information in these pages as well. This book also has a spiritual component which explores the use of prayer and accountability in understanding the powerful pull that pornography has on the male brian. It also takes a close look at contemporary culture and the impact it has on the male perception of women and relationships.

 

Struther’s objective in this book is to show how the brain forms attachments and memories. When you understand the biology behind sexual development, you can create healthier sexual relationships and perceptions. This book gives readers hope for a life free from pornography.

Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession, and Shame

Does this title speak to you? That’s probably because many porn addictions are closely related to sex addiction and cause addicts to harbor feelings of disgust and shame. While sexual satisfaction is often the driving force for most porn addicts, it’s not the only one. It’s also, usually, not the root cause of the problem. Many people turn to pornography as an outlet for something much deeper.

 

In Breaking the Cycle, author George N. Collins discusses sexual compulsions and his life as a former sex addict. In this step-by-step guide, Collins helps readers embrace a life of purpose and productivity. If your porn addiction is impacting your job, relationships, and self-esteem, it’s time to regain control of your life. Breaking the Cycle can help you achieve this while also teaching you how to build more meaningful and intimate connections with others.

The Porn Trap: The Esstential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography

Porn addiction is about more than just a compulsion to view pornographic materials or masturbate. It even extends far beyond a sex addiction. In The Porn Trap, authors Wendy and Larry Maltz explore just how damaging porn addiction can be to your life and ways to pick up the pieces. Two highly-regarded sex and relationship therapists, these authors shed light on the availability of pornography in today’s digital age. The couple shares their own real-life experiences to help you answer some poignant questions. At it’s conclusion, you’ll possess useful tips on developing a healthy sex life, healing broken relationships, improving your self-esteem, and dealing with cravings.

 

The Porn Myth: Exploring the Reality Behind the Fantasy Pornography

In many ways, pornography is all smoke and mirrors. It’s not reality. In fact, some addicts turn to pornography as an escape from reality — a way to live-out their unrealistic fantasies and indulge in taboo fetishes. When it’s stripped down, the reality of what pornography really is and the damage it can do is alarmingly obvious.

In The Porn Myth, author Matt Fradd takes a different approach by dissecting pro-pornography arguments. Taking both a logical and scientific approach, Fradd provides insightful viewpoints on almost every angle and argument on porn addiction. He uncovers the negative impact porn has on not only your mind, but your relationships, and culture as a whole. Readers will also learn about the neurological science behind porn addiction. This is a good read for family and friends of addicts also, as Fradd provides help and support for those impacted by a loved one’s porn addiction.

Sexual Detox: A Guide for Guys Who Are Sick of Porn

Another book targeting a male audience, Sexual Detox explores why men are at greater risk of developing an addiction to porn, as well as moral, physical, and psychological reasons to break the habit of viewing. Author Tim Challies claims that most men need a porn detox and sexual reset in today’s sex-driven culture.

 

Callies explains that overtime, exposure to pornographic material can weaken your conscience, corrupt your thinking, twist your understanding of sexuality, and make it difficult to decipher between right and wrong. Sexual Detox has religious undertones that explore God’s original intention for sex as man’s greatest gift. By the end of this read, Callies hopes to cleanse your mind of all the lies and negative influences you’ve been subjected to in the form of pornography. In the end, you will let go of what was once considered “normal” and embrace a newm porn-free reality.

Sex is Not the Problem (Lust Is): Sexual Purity in a Lust-Saturated World

The number one question most porn and sex addicts ask themself is, “Why?”. Why am I drawn to pornography? What am I getting out of it? And why can’t I stop viewing? Most people associate pornography with sex. In this compelling book, author Joshua Harris explores the theory of lust and the role it plays in porn addiction. Harris suggests that the act of sex isn’t the problem. Instead, a lust-saturated world filled with images and temptations clouds our judgment. In Sex is Not the Problem, Harris helps bring readers back to a life full of joy and freedom.

Another book with underlying spiritual undertones, Harris takes a PG-rated approach to the topic of porn addiction and lust. Harris also shares his own experiences with temptation, offering readers strategies for standing strong against lust’s tactics and creating an individualized plan for fighting back.

Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex and Pornography Addiction Recovery

One of the best ways to heal and recover from porn addiction is by sharing your story and experience with other addicts. That’s exactly what author Forest Benedict does in his candid and raw book, Life After Lust. Readers are inspired by Benedict’s honest and detailed story of his own personal struggles on the road to recovery. Benedict shares science-based strategies that appeal to both male and female oorn addicts. The overall tone of this book is hopeful, with palpable honesty sprinkled throughout.

Disclosing Secrets: An Addict’s Guide for When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal

Porn addiction has a ripple effect on the people around us. Regardless of how well-kept your secret is, changes in your behavior, habits, and personality, all negatively impact those around you. In the Stop Together program we discuss sharing your addiction with those closest to you. Although many addicts are hesitant to do so, it’s an important step in the recovery process. Not only does it hold you accountable to yourself and others but promotes an honest life of transparency. In Disclosing Secrets, authors M. Deborah Corely and Jennifer P. Schneider offer a step-by-step guide to the difficult process of sharing your sex or porn addiction with others.

 

In these pages you’ll learn what, when, how, and who to tell about your journey. Not only will you learn strategies for sharing this information but also tips on how to do so, at what point in your recovery process, and who exactly needs to know. While this is ultimately a personal decision, Disclosing Secrets can help make this painful process more bearable. Readers also receive advice on how to repair broken or damaged relationships and rebuild trust with those you love most.

A Multi-Faceted Approach to Healing

Helping your porn addiction won’t happen overnight and you’ll probably stumble along the way. But with the right resources, tools, and support, you can overcome your addiction and live a fulfilling life free of pornography.

 

In Stop Together we provide a step-by-step guide for breaking free from the hold pornography has on you and reclaiming your self-worth, identity, and freedom. Through mindfulness, meditation, and other hands-on activities and exercises, we guide you through every step of the recovery process.

Depending on your specific situation, you can use these books to support and reinforce the ideas found in the Stop Together program. These stories may act as another source of information and empowerment as you navigate your journey. From understanding the science behind addiction and tapping into your spiritual side to learning how to share your story with others, you’re now armed with the tools you need to take a multi-faceted approach to healing.

Treating Pornography Addiction by Kevin B. Skinner

Dr. Kevin B. Skinner is a marriage and family therapist and a member of SASH (The Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health). He uses his years of experience and expertise to design a book that walks porn addicts through the recovery process. Through his work, Dr. Skinner helps readers to understand not only how porn addiction affects the mind but how it develops into an addiction. Dr. Skinner teaches readers how to rewrite these unhealthy patterns of behavior in their minds. Readers also receive an assessment tool to help track progress titled Assessing Pornography Addiction.

In the Shadows of the Net by Patrick Carnes

In a digital age where 25% of all web searches are for pornographic material, this book takes a deep dive into the world of internet porn and the addicts it creates. Patrick Carnes takes a hard look at the reality of internet porn and the fact that people of all ages can now view and participate in sexual activities anonymously. He goes on to explain that this risky online behavior is destroying many real-life relationships and causing a worldwide crisis. In this second edition book, Carnes offers understanding, answers, and tools for recovery. He also includes recent technology, the latest statistics, and new ways of thinking to help recovering addicts form healthy relationships and avoid relapse. This book offers professional and authoritative advice on achieving long-lasting change and healing from porn addiction and other online sexual behaviors.

Wack: Addicted to Internet Porn by Noah B. E. Church

This is another book that takes a close look at the growing problem of internet porn addiction. In his raw and honest perspective, Church brings many alarming facts and statistics about internet porn to light, including the fact that it’s become largely mainstream thanks to millions of uploads of free content.

Church acknowledges the many reasons why internet porn is so appealing and, inherently, addictive, including the fact that it’s much more stimulating and varied than real-life encounters. Church explains that when you view pornography online, you experience powerful neurological reactions, similar to those experienced by drug addicts and alcoholics. Over time, many porn addicts experience unpleasant symptoms like ED (erectile dysfunction), reduced libido, emotional reliance on porn, and extreme sexual preferences that don’t align with reality. Church details how these tendencies impact a person’s personal relationships and may also trigger depression, social anxiety, and other mental health concerns.

Church explains that this book isn’t designed as an attack on pornography, but instead, as a scientific exploration of how internet porn affects people and influences our culture. He also provides a guide for porn addicts or those who have an unhealthy porn habit so they can heal from these unpleasant porn-induced symptoms. Church’s goal is to help readers restore themselves to full emotional and sexual function.

What Can I Do About Me? By Rhyll Anne Croshaw

A poetic and religious approach to understanding the porn addiction recovery process, Croshaw sheds light and new hope on the darkness of pornography and sexual addiction. She covers the trauma felt by those closest to the addict and offers hope that recovery and peace are both attainable. Croshaw offers a pathway to healing and hope for overcoming your present circumstance and hope for a brighter future. She provides a raw look at what real recovery looks and feels like by recognizing that there’s no way to overcome porn and sex addiction without going through it. Readers learn to set boundaries as a form of self-love and self-care. You’ll also learn to forgive and trust yourself again. You’ll also learn to be grateful for the present moment and take one day at a time in your path toward healing.

Love You, Hate the Porn by Mark Chamberlain

This book is for couples overcoming porn addiction and/or infidelity. Chamberlain’s title, “Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity, tells you all you need to know about this book. For the partner or spouse of the porn addict, this addiction can feel as real and be as traumatizing as a real-life affair or betrayal. Chamberlain explains that there’s nothing “virtual” about the damage porn addiction has on an intimate relationship. He also explains that each time a relapse occurs, those same wounds are reopened.

According to Chamberlain, healing a marriage damaged by pornography is even more difficult than overcoming addictive behaviors. For the spouse who feels wronged, their partner’s promise to stop viewing pornography usually isn’t enough. They need to focus on their own healing and recovery. Chamberlain explains that those couples that choose to stay together and work toward recovery are met with numerous unresolved feelings like, “Will I ever trust them again?” and “Can we really recover from this?”. In his book, Chamberlain helps couples address their individual vulnerabilities and those that exist within their relationship and offers advice and guidance for healing. Porn addicts receive tips for avoiding relapse while the wronged partner receives the compassion and support they need. Chamberlain’s ultimate goal is to help couples damaged by pornography addiction build a marriage that’s strong than it was before.

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