What We Can Learn from Terry Crews Porn Addiction?

Sandra Richardson

Jun 02, 2021

Porn addiction doesn’t discriminate. It doesn’t matter how successful or wealthy you are. Anyone can fall victim to pornography. And Terry Crews is a prime example of this. The 52-year-old actor, comedian, and former football player recently opened up about his porn addiction. An addiction that almost cost him his career and his marriage of 25 years.

 

So, how exactly does a successful star and activist like Terry Crews develop a porn addiction that almost ruined his life? By taking a closer look at his backstory and what led to his addiction, we can learn a lot about the nature of porn addiction, its underlying causes, and how, with the right mindset and resources, you too can reclaim your life.

The Story of Tyler Crew’s Addiction

Tyler Crews’ exposure to pornography started at a very early age. By 12, he was viewing pornography in his uncle’s basement. As shocking as this may seem, studies show that the average child is exposed to pornographic content online as early as age 11!

Crews admits to growing up in a dysfunctional, addictive household. His mother was obsessed with religion and his father was an alcoholic. His parents limited his activity outside the home, not allowing him to participate in sports or watch television. With nowhere to turn and very little support, Crews found comfort and developed an emotional connection with pornography.

In time, Crews started viewing people as objects — including his wife of 25 years, singer Rebecca King Crews. In one interview Crews said, “It (porn) changes the way you think about people. People become objects. People become body parts; they become things to be used rather than people to be loved.”

This detached feeling is what led to his affair, which he admitted to his wife and they’ve since overcome. Crews’ porn addiction got so bad that he checked himself into rehab. Watching pornography until day turned into the night was a major turning point for the former NFL player. He also looked at porn as an escape from reality, claiming “It was one of those things that took me away and medicated me.”

After completing rehab, Crews and his wife were able to reconnect on a deeper level. Crews claims that life without porn is more fulfilling and much happier. He also attributes his recovery to the love and support of his family and fans.

What We Can Learn from Crews’ Story and Honesty

It’s not easy exposing oneself as a porn addict. Any addiction is private and embarrassing, but porn addiction, in particular, carries a certain level of shame and guilt for many addicts. This is especially true for someone as high-profile as Terry Crews. So, what can we learn from his addiction admission and recovery?

 

Let’s take a closer look.

Risk Factors

It’s not healthy (or fair) for anyone to blame their addiction on anyone else. You must own and come to terms with the decisions you make. However, research shows that certain people are at greater risk for developing addictions.

Risk factors include, but aren’t limited to:

  • Genetics
  • Environment/Upbringing
  • Early exposure
  • Mental health issues

After taking a look at these risk factors, it shouldn’t come as a surprise that Terry Crews developed an addiction to pornography. For starters, both his parents exhibited addictive behaviors and tendencies. His father was an alcoholic and his mother was obsessed with religion. While the latter doesn’t necessarily indicate an addiction, obsession can lead to compulsive behaviors and, eventually, addiction.

Terry’s inability to engage in social activities like sports may have created feelings of isolation and emotional abandonment. Living in a household with an alcoholic is often abusive (mentally, emotionally, or physically), unstable, and extremely unhealthy for a child. Crews also had access to pornographic material at a very young age — another risk factor for developing an addiction.

Mental health issues like anxiety and depression are other common precursors for addiction. While Terry Crews never admitted to having mental health problems, his unstable upbringing could have caused extreme distress at a very young age. While these risk factors aren’t a guarantee that you’ll develop an addiction or an excuse for doing so, they can offer some insight into why you’ve found yourself in this place — dependent on porn for emotional and physical satisfaction.

Warning Signs

After reading Terry Crews’ candid depiction of how he developed an addiction to porn, you may be able to recognize warning signs in your own life.

Losing Track of Time

In several interviews, Crews admitted to spending countless hours viewing pornography — so much so that he actually lost track of time. Minutes turned to hours and hours quickly turned to days. He found himself viewing pornography from morning till night. Does this sound familiar? A complete preoccupation with viewing pornography, losing track of time, and shirking important responsibilities in order to watch, are all signs that you’re addicted.

Damaging Relationships

One of the most shocking facts of Terry Crews’ porn addiction is that it resulted in an affair. Terry and his wife Rebecca have been married for 25 years and share 5 children. Not only did Terry admittedly cheat on his wife after becoming obsessed with pornography, but he kept it a secret from her for many years. (We’ll discuss more on secrecy in a minute).

Even before the affair, Terry found himself withdrawn from his wife. As mentioned before, for Terry, people became objects to use instead of humans with emotions, deserving of love and affection. Objectifying women is a common and unfortunate occurrence associated with porn addiction. Be careful of how your feelings and actions change toward your loved ones, especially your romantic partner, after viewing pornography.

It’s common for porn addicts to lose interest in sex or find sex with a partner less satisfying than watching pornography and masturbating. Pornography also creates unrealistic expectations and fantasies of what sex should be. Projecting these fantasies or expectations on your partner is both unhealthy and unfair. You might find yourself seeking out a different partner who’s willing to indulge in your sexual fantasies, as Crews did. Be careful not to pressure your partner into participating in anything they’re not comfortable with. All of these behaviors can damage your relationship. Terry and his wife were fortunate enough to overcome his addiction and strengthen their relationship, but not all porn addicts are this lucky.

Lying and Deceit

Lying, secrets, and shame are all common among addicts. Some addicts lie to themselves in an effort to block out their addiction. They don’t want to believe it, so if they ignore it, maybe it’s not real. Terry Crews hid his addiction for several decades before finally opening up about it in 2014.

As bad as lying to yourself is, lying to loved ones can cause irreversible damage. Case in point — Terry’s infidelity to his wife. Although they were fortunate enough to come out stronger on the other side, he still kept his addiction and his affair a secret for many years. If you’re lying to loved ones about your addiction, it’s important to know that you may be damaging personal relationships forever. Not everyone may be as forgiving as Rebecca King Crews. You may lose the trust and respect of those most important to you.

Are you also lying to colleagues, friends, or even your boss? This is a risky game to play. While lying is immoral, it can also get you in hot water. If you’re hiding your porn addiction, chances are it’s more obvious in your behavior than you realize. Being sneaky, missing deadlines, and showing up late are casualties of lying at work to continue indulging in your porn addiction.

The truth will eventually come out. It’s best that it comes from you before those closest to you find out on their own.

The Power of Sharing Your Story

There are countless inspiring stories of people opening up about their addictions and using their personal journey and stories to help and motivate others. Terry Crews is no different.

After admitting he had a porn addiction and posting several videos detailing his story online, Crews was able to inspire and help countless other porn addicts just like himself. His story showed others that porn addiction is real and it can affect people from all walks of life. It also inspired others to be honest with themselves and their loved ones about their struggles and to seek help. If a strong, successful former NFL player and bodybuilder like Terry Crews can be honest about his addiction and ask for help, so can you!

Sharing your own personal experience is another powerful tool for recovery — not only for you but for those around you. Support groups are a prime example of how sharing ones’ experience, struggles, and triumphs can help motivate and inspire others to do the same. Don’t be afraid to open up and be vulnerable. You may learn just as much from other people’s stories as they can learn from yours.

Don’t keep your porn addiction hidden any longer. While you don’t have to shout it from the rooftops, start by being honest with yourself. Admit to yourself that you’re addicted to porn and need help to overcome it.

Embrace the Recovery Process

With countless books, apps, and therapists out there, it can be difficult to choose the right recovery path for you. The Stop Together program offers you a combination of resources, support, and tools so you can take control of your porn addiction. You’ll gain access to activities and exercises to help you resist urges and temptation and work closely with qualified professionals and addicts just like you. It’s time to learn from other inspiring individuals like Terry Crews and face your addiction head-on and with confidence!